Are you afraid to say the three words that will change your relationship forever? Even if you really really are dying to say them? Well, never you worry. Read more >
Let me start off by saying that I actually do know the difference between the way a nice glass of wine tastes and the way a crappy wine tastes.
I know what I’m doing; thus, I can tell you how to pretend to know what you’re doing (without actually knowing how to do it). Read more >
Frat boys don’t have the right idea.
In fact, it’s amazing to me that they get laid at all.
Women are all about feeling – the mood – when it comes to sex. If a guy’s room is scary, gross, weird, or too adorable (which is also weird), sex is a no-go activity. Read more >
I’ve been on a few blind dates.
For a 24 year old who started dating at age 16, I’ve been on way more than most people my age. If I hadn’t eventually found a boyfriend (who I did NOT meet as a result of a blind date), and kept going on blind dates at this rate, by the time I turned 60, I would have gone on approximately 38 blind dates. So, by this logic, you could practically call me an expert on blind dates and dating.
And I’ve never been on a good blind date. Read more >
As a couple, picking complementary Halloween costumes can be more difficult than you’d first expect. All the couples you’ve seen have been dressing alike and making it seem like good ideas are few and far between this year.
Of course, that’s far from true. And if you stick to any of the following categories, you and your honey baby are bound to come out wearing something original.
Not to mention, if no one can figure your costumes out, it’s even better! You get the pleasure of informing ignorant couples just what your brilliant and original costumes are and then you get to act like you’re just oh, so over their obvious ones.
“You’re a pair of ghosts, right? What, were your mommies on vacation?”
That’s right. Snap!
Okay, let’s get started. Read more >
You go to the bar with your friend, Lola (if you don’t like the name Lola, you can pick a different name), and you’re both hanging over the bar, trying to get the bartender’s attention.
Lola has giant bosoms and is always – this time being no exception – noticed first. It doesn’t matter that you have a shiny, winning smile – it’s dark in there and no one seems to care about dental hygiene when intoxicated. Read more >
In our society especially, maintaining your status as a manly man means sauntering around like a superhero in street clothes. And superheroes express themselves by displaying their might, grunting when things get tough (or something’s a little heavy), and laughing in clusters of three “ha”s.
Superheroes do not cry.
Writers of the show Lois and Clark had Superman cry once. That show is no more.
Crying is a delicate matter for a manly man, especially if he’s crying in front of a woman. Women will make assumptions about a man who cries, whether they admit to it or not. If a manly man doesn’t proceed with caution, it’s likely he’ll besmirch his shiny masculinity with such an open display of his feelings, especially if he’s displaying them to a woman who doesn’t know him all that well.
Thus, if you’re manly man and you’re in a situation where the floodgates are parting and there aren’t any available bathrooms to which you can run for cover, follow these guidelines and you’ll keep your masculinity above the water:
1. LOOK LIKE THE MAN YOU ARE
The most important advice I have is to try and make yourself look attractive in a very masculine way. Meaning that you might be one of those sexy, dark skin men who can pull off pink shirts, but forget about it here. Pink is not going to help you look like a manly man in the event that you get all weepy.
Note: If you’re blonde and sporting pink, you might as well be wearing spandex and leg warmers.
And, if looking attractive is just not going to happen for you, the problem is easily solved by hitting the gym and producing impressive biceps and pectorals. You want to look like an imposing figure, even during moments of weakness. And just being overweight won’t work to make you seem bigger in a manly sense (unless you’re chubby with impressive biceps and pectorals) – you really don’t want the ‘big baby’ label; babies aren’t men.
2.DON’T TALK, DON’T GESTURE
Avoid the temptation to express yourself in any way mid-sob.
You want your voice to maintain its manly tenor; mid-sob speaking has your voice staggering around between alto and soprano land, Jiminy Glick style.
Your best bet for keeping a tight grip on your masculinity is through a dignified silence. Else, you’re certain to emit whiney baby vibes. And if woman responds favorably to whiney baby vibes, it’s not because she considers you a man who’s in touch with his emotional side (though she may refer to your emotional display as such out of courtesy or confusion):
It’s because, more likely than not, she’s always wanted to have a baby, and now she’s considering that having you is basically the same thing. Minus the hospital bills and the stretch marks.
Gesturing mid-sob is out, too, since you’ll end up flailing like a little birdie.
3. LYING YOUR ASS OFF IS A SURVIVAL TACTIC
If it’s the first time you’re crying in the presence of a woman, act like (but don’t tell her that) you’ve never cried before:
Touch the first of your tears and feign surprise upon discovering your cheeks are wet. Overact. Sweep away the first few tears with your finger tips and examine them in disbelief, like some people would when they discover they’re bleeding.
But no, you’re not most people – you’re used to bleeding. You’d look at blood like you’d look at your neighbor. Blood’s familiar to you. You bleed all that time; you’re a man!
Crying is what’s unfamiliar to manly men.
“What are these wet things sliding down my face? How’d they get there…Oh no, sweetie!” you’ll say in disbelief. “I think I’m crying…quick, call emergency services!”
Then later, make sure to tell her you haven’t cried since childhood, She’s the only one you’ve cried with, and it seems she awoke a part of you that you didn’t even know existed.
This way, if you cry around her in the future, she’ll blame herself.
4. LET THE WOMAN GET YOU A TISSUE
And under no circumstances should you ask for or go get one. Doing such a thing reveals that you’ve done this kind of thing before. That you know what you’re doing.
Keep in mind: tissues belong to the satiny world of baby bunnies and flowers, of which women are the guardians. The rule is that to acquire one for sniveling purposes (if you’re sick or have allergies or something, you’re off the hook on grounds of sinus overload), it must be given to you by a woman.
And so what happens if you’re a mess and no tissue gift has been bestowed upon you?
Go for the sleeves, guys.
Gross? Yes. But you’re a man, so suck it up: it may gross the woman out, and she may get mad at you for not just getting a tissue yourself, but believe me: she doesn’t want looting in her world.
Also, she’ll likely get you a tissue if she sees you going for your sleeve.
5. MANLY MEN DON’T POUT
Find a balance between face scrunching and overly deadpanning. You’ll want to keep your lower lip from quivering and protruding.
Manly men don’t pout unless they’re doing it to try and be cute – and it is cute then, but definitely not when they’re doing it for real; it’s quite scary, actually.
If you’re worried at all about your lower lip’s behavior, just tilt your head down so that your chin becomes less prominent; It’ll look like your pain is deeper and more worthy of being cried over.
6. REWRITE HISTORY
This last piece of advice is relevant at a point in time after your little rain shower, on the off chance that you’d want or have to refer to it as something.
Be careful which word/s you use. Avoid words like crying, weeping (oh god, definitely avoid saying you were weeping), sobbing, etc.
In fact, try not to call it anything at all, if possible. If you can’t, and must refer to your “episode” (another term you want to avoid), just call it “the time when you became rather teary-eyed” – it sounds better. And kind of British.
And you know, James Bond is the epitome of manly men.
Over the centuries, it has become more and more difficult for us humans to think of ourselves as being a part of the animal kingdom. We like to think of our world as being so civilized, so logic-driven.
Somehow we’ve come to the conclusion that even our sexual instincts are driven by reason. A prime example of this is our using so many tools to follow fashion trends, as we think they’re what makes the opposite sex attracted to us.
Of course, though, we are still members of the animal kingdom. And our instinctual desires are actually still entirely driven by our primitive selves.
No matter what we put on to make ourselves sexually appealing – from brightly coloured pants to tattoos to fragrances to cosmetics – we really only succeed in making ourselves pop out of the crowd if we use the same devices our primitive ancestors used (regardless of whether they’re dressed up versions or not).
Really, we’ve just made the whole process of attracting a mate more confusing. Fashions, cosmetics, body art, etc. are all about emphasizing an individual features that have the best chance of appealing to any potential mate’s instinctual sexual desires. For this reason, not all styles look attractive on everyone; some accentuate parts of people’s bodies that are not their assets, and thus accentuating them may even prove to detract a potential mate.
Happily, though, being sexually attractive is achieved by attending to rather basic, universal principles. Our animal urges happen to be stimulated by the visual, audition (pertaining to how we move and how our voices sound), and olfactory senses.
And it’s really pretty simple to stimulate them. Just keep the following in mind as you read: if you got it, flaunt it; if you don’t, either fake it or draw attention away from it.
Understanding how to appeal to audition and olfactory senses is much easier than understanding how to appeal to the visual sense. In terms of the audition sense, it’s fairly common knowledge that a person can be seen as more or less attractive by the way in which he or she walks across a room or moves while dancing. In the same way, a person will be perceived as more or less attractive depending on how melodious or smooth his or her voice sounds – think of the difference between Fran Drescer’s voice and, well, just about any other actor’s.
As far as the olfactory sense is concerned, a person will be more attractive simply by maintaining good hygiene and taking preventative measures not to smell offensive, using tools such as deodorants and mouthwash. Beyond that, fragrances are widely used to appeal to the opposite sex.
Things become a little more complicated when we attempt to tantalize the visual senses. Generally speaking, the healthier a person appears, regardless of gender, the more attractive they’re perceived. This is why the most seemingly-attractive people possess a healthy weight, healthy-looking skin, lustrous hair, strong nails, etc. Luckily, health is an asset many of us can strive to attain, if we don’t already have it.
Besides health, though, the most visually-appealing traits across genders are associated with the sizes of different bodily features and shape, the grooming of body and facial hair, and how much of a mirror-symmetry is possessed by the individual.
Along these lines, women are meant to strive for more hourglass shapes, drawing a line of symmetry at the waist, often by means of cinching with waistlines or belts. And a woman is also considered more shapely if her breasts are parabolic and her buttocks is cardioid – achieving these shapes is often what makes certain bras or pairs of pants look flattering. As for making her face look more symmetrical, a woman is helped out with the application of cosmetics.
For men, women are generally more attracted to mates that are considered tall, or are (at least) taller than themselves. They’re also considered more “manly” when they possess traits such as bodily hair growth or muscle definition that need testosterone to be acquired. It is interesting to note as well, that women are more particular about men’s attire than men are about women’s.
So, whatever you’d like to believe about beauty being in the eye of the beholder, and however much you partake in today’s trends, just know that to find a mate, you need to appeal to his or her primitive instincts. Just know which approach will suit you the best before you go out and display a flappy tush in vinyl pants as see-through as a shower curtain.
The end of summer can be somewhat dim and depressing.
Donning a woolen sweater with a design that echoes the not-too-distant snowfall, you brace yourself for the cold, dreary weather. You remember how much fun you and your significant other had only weeks before. Forlornly, you nudge your favorite pair of sandals beneath the bed with your foot, and then you rest your snorkel in a plastic bin, amongst several other objects bearing the colors of tropical fish.
Out come those horrid boots that make your feet clammy, and that weather-proof coat that reminds you of a colossal, green marshmallow.
You traipse to the garage with an armful of pink and green pool noodles, finally wedging them in the crevice between six tiki torches and your bicycle. Ah…you remember that day when you and your sweetheart woke up and thought it was just the perfect weather to take a nice bike ride. The wind combed through your hair and, for some reason, you became suddenly filled with gratitude for how blissful your childhood had been. After some distance, the two of you dismounted by a park bench and filled your lungs with the perfumes of blossoming flowers.
You laughed together for sneezing at the same time. Oh, allergies! Your love packed a nasal decongestant; all was right with the world.
The echoing of your laughter is suddenly drowned out by the wind’s commiserating with you; peeking through the blinds, you can almost see it howling through the trees. And the sky grays with insulating clouds that shroud the sun, blocking out its heat.
Will the sun ever come out again!?
Yes, it will. And, the entire southern hemisphere, in fact, is probably tanning and firing up their barbies – it’s spring there!
But wait a minute!
Before you start to squirrel away your spending money and daydream about slathering your significant other with suntan lotion on some Polynesian island, you should know that, as a season, autumn isn’t all that bad (winter is way worse!). Sure, in July, you and your sweetheart spent the most romantic night either of you ever had in a hammock together, gazing up at the stars – one of you said that no night could ever be as special as that summer night was.
Whoever said that was wrong.
I’m championing autumn’s potential for not only romance, but for all around fun. If you bemoan the loss of summer for the entire autumn, you’ll have missed out on the chance to partake in the following eight fall activities that I’ve come up with for you and your honey baby. And this list is just to get the ball rolling! There are so many more awesometastic fall activities that I totally missed including on my list. Maybe even hundreds more? You guys decide.
But first, read through my list:
- VISIT A LOCAL APPLE ORCHARD!
Pluck some apples fresh off the trees! – Don’t know where any local apple orchards are? Not to worry. Check out this fabulous apple orchard finder website.
- BAKE INTERESTING/DELICIOUS THINGS
I hope all of your baked goods come out patisserie-quality, of course. But sometimes, they come out unrecognizable. It happens. Enjoy the suspense…it’s half what makes baking so entertaining for amateurs! Even better if you’re baking something you’ve always heard about, but have never seen first hand. Mystery, Suspense’s half-brother!
- CARVE SOME PUMPKINS!
Many Americans are well-acquainted with this October activity, but are less than amused after popping a few unimaginative, geometric shapes out of their pumpkin’s shell. It’s time to get creative with your carving and go to town on pumpkin carving. Need some inspiration? Here are some impressive pumpkins.And don’t forget, when you both are done, toast the seeds, make pumpkin soup (or pie), and stick a candle in it – the pumpkin shell, I mean (unless it’s your birthday, or something). If either of you do a horrible job, be comforted in knowing that a deformed pumpkin is a festive pumpkin!
- BUILD A TENT IN YOUR LIVING ROOM!
It’s the one way to feel even more cozy than you would crawling into your bed and under the covers. You can’t bring your massive dog, or pop tarts (if you don’t have a massive dog) – too many crumbs, under your bed covers. So tack the sheets to the living room walls and hibernate in your own tent, spacious enough to fit two lovebirds, an entire box of pop tarts, and your massive dog (if you have one – if you don’t, you might be able to borrow one from a neighbor).
- LEAF TUMBLE!
There are falling leaves, and there are people who rake them into fun-sized piles. Diving into those piles may seem somewhat ridiculous and childish, but if you’re both willing to play in snow – making snow angels and that sort of thing – tumbling in a pile of leaves will seem like a fresh, less wet variation. Of course, if your reservations stem from the guilt you’d feel after scattering the leaves someone just painstakingly raked together, know that the experience will make you, as a couple, stronger, since you’ll have been accomplices. Or else, you could just rake up your own leaves to mess around in.
- TASTE FALL WINES
Every season boasts of its unique wines. Look for local tasting rooms or wineries to sample them! You might also keep an eye out for mead (or honey) wines – depending on the recipe, meads can be made dry, semi-sweet, sweet, carbonated, still, or sparkling, with mulling spices, fruits, hops, or grain mash, giving them a relatively wide appeal; just be careful not to be too festive, as some mead wines are strong enough to singe your eyebrows off, and that’s not very attractive.
- SIT IN A CAFE WITH A DECK OF CARDS
It’s simple, laid back, and inexpensive. And, if it’s you that suggests it, your lover will think you’re just adorable. Play anything you know how to play, or pick up a book of card games to learn some new ones.
When I was a kid, I had The Klutz Book of Card Games: For Sharks and Others. It had everything in there from card games to card tricks. I highly recommend it if you’re the least bit afraid you’ll end up highly caffeinated, playing Go Fish! for 4-6 hours.
- MAKE DAY OF THE DEAD MASKS!
A fabulous way to get in touch not only with your creative side and your lover, but also with your dead loved ones. Go all out and make a paper maché cast of your partner’s face, let it dry, and paint it! if you need some examples of these vibrant Mexican masks to base your own on, check out these pictures: http://www.fotopedia.com/en/Day_of_the_Dead . Oh, and just don’t drink mead beforehand, like my fiancé and I did when we began to make ours a few years ago; I wound up falling asleep while waiting for the paper maché to dry on my face; I tried to deny that I was sleeping, but knew it was no use when he told me I was snoring rather loudly. Haha.
Alright, so there you go. Now, go grab your significant other, forget about the sun, and enjoy your Fall together!
Have you ever noticed that most men can’t really stand fashion shows? Why is that?
Fashion shows should be a joy for them – watching means getting to watch hot models strut around for an hour or so. Well, a lot of the fashions displayed can be kind of eccentric. Men don’t really understand the reason behind wrapping one’s body in so many crazy creations that designers come up with.
Similarly, I’ve heard so many women ooh and ahh over the fashions worn by Sarah Jessica Parker in The Sex and the City; I’ve also heard so many men say that her character’s wardrobe not only confuses them, but just totally obliterates her sex appeal.
“What IS that?” they ask, tilting their heads from side to side like puzzled puppies.
“It’s a dress,” I say.
In my opinion, the only ways to justify wearing outlandish, trendy outfits are by saying you’re paying homage to fashion, or by attributing them to your own bold expressions that you don’t care about anyone else judging.
Unfortunately, a lot of women adopt trendy styles because they think wearing the latest looks will render them both edgy and more attractive. Those women are, sadly, under a misconception.
Here’s 10 trendy looks that will actually turn off most men. So, wearer beware!
1. Leggings and legwarmers!
3. Wearing either neon or pink colors
5. Giant sunglasses
6. Tall gladiator shoes
7. Anything with a crazy amount of ruffles
8. Graphic tees with random and/or weird words or statements (E.g. ‘I heart your boyfriend’)
9. Baby doll dresses
10. Harem pants